COVID-19 is impacting all of us, but especially the couples who decided that 2020 was going to be the year of wedding bliss. I’m here to give you some tips on how you and your partner can manage your logistics and emotions during this unprecedented time. If your wedding is scheduled within the next few months it’s time to start thinking about a backup plan.
1. Remember your most important priorities for your wedding.
Is your priority:
a. To have a religious ceremony with your grandparents/parents in attendance? Then keep in mind the option of postponing. You don’t want to put anyone’s health and safely at risk.
b. Or maybe your priority is to be legally married ASAP. In that case you will want to check if your local city clerk’s office is open in order to elope.
Or
c. You want a wedding to be the best party with family and friends. If this is the case then look into the option of 2021 as your new wedding year.
2. Allow all the emotions to surface: anger, sadness, disappointment. I encourage you to express these feelings with your partner, your family, and friends. After you’ve felt all the feelings, it’s time to start making those decisions, making those phone calls, and writing those emails.
3. Venue and Vendors-Review and start reading all the fine print on all those contracts you signed several months ago. What is your venues policy on postponing? And how about the non-refundable deposits you placed with all your vendors months ago? Contact all your vendors and see what options are available before you make your final decision. Remember your vendors want what’s best for everyone, are probably very flexible, and might be able to roll over the deposits. Contact them to see what’s possible.
4. Look at the this pandemic as the first hardship/obstacle you are experiencing as a couple. How can you lean on each other? How do you react when your world turns upside down? What are your strengths and your partners during these difficult times? Trust me, you will be faced with other difficult times in your marriage down the road. Find the silver lining.
5. Take care of yourself. Practice proper hygiene. Wash your hands. Take a walk as a couple or by yourself. Drink enough water, eat nourishing food, and get enough sleep. And BREATHE. You will get through it.
**And finally, remember when you get through ALL this, you will have a great story to share.